It’s my first time writing on this app.
And if I’m writing today, it’s because I really need to. I’m hurting—so much—and I have no one to talk to.
I met my boyfriend in 2021. Back then, we were just friends online, and he was actually my older sister’s friend.
In 2023, we got together because there was a real connection between us.
Since then, we’ve never left each other.
After 9 months of being together, he got his visa to continue his studies in Canada.
So we started a long-distance relationship.
At the beginning of the distance (the first 2 months), I could feel that he was getting caught up in his new life over there.
He became very distant, etc.
After 5 or 6 months of distance, I found out that he was talking to other girls on Snapchat — sharing things about his past private life, intimate relationships, etc., all while saying he was in a relationship.
When I confronted him, he said it was just to pass time, and I forgave him.
8 months later, I tested him with a fake account on Snapchat and discovered he was still talking to girls.
I confronted him again, blocked him everywhere, and he contacted me by email to talk...
I unblocked him and he told me it was out of weakness, that because I’m no longer by his side, he couldn’t handle it.
(Just so you know, I also applied for a Canadian study visa, but I got rejected twice.)
He told me, “Please forgive me, I won’t do it again. You’re the one I want.” He cried… so I forgave him, but I stayed a bit distant.
After that, I got rejected for the visa a third time.
So I decided to apply again for the 4th time, but this time I’m going to change my field completely.
I talked to my sister about it, but she was against it. She told me, “You already tried 3 times, enough.”
And she also said, “If he really loved you, he would come ask for your hand instead of telling you to go to Canada.”
But he already talked about me to his parents. And if I get my visa this time, I will make him come ask for my hand so we can live together and not make mistakes...
Since then, my sister keeps causing problems.
Every time I talk about my plans, she tells my mom or my other sister to stop me.
My two sisters want to force me to marry someone else — someone who already has a job and money (because I already have marriage proposals).
But I want to stay with him, even if he’s still a student, even if he doesn’t have his own house yet, even if he lives with roommates. I can wait.
But my sisters keep saying, “Once he succeeds, he’ll forget you — maybe even before.”
But he keeps proving the opposite.
And I’m so tired of hearing the same thing over and over again.
Every time I see my older sister, she tells me, “Get married, get married.”
I’m really at my limit.
Yesterday, I went to book an appointment for a language test to start my procedures again as you know.
And my sister — the one who always causes me problems — told my mother, “Why do you let her go? She already tried 3 times, that’s enough.”
But the real reason I’m doing all this is for my future and my dream of living abroad — not just because my boyfriend is there.
And I’m so tired of these problems, and of the other troubles she causes me… it hurts.
My boyfriend is also very busy lately with work and studies… he’s alone over there.
I feel suffocated. I don’t know what to do anymore.
Should I wait for him and keep burdening him with my problems and my family’s pressure?
Or should I listen to my family and leave him, even though I don’t want that? I’m not a coward. I don’t want to leave him. But I am suffering, and I might make him suffer too.
I hope someone can help me 🤍 ...voir plus
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