Pourquoi je ne suis jamais la première option ?

Question

im always treated like an option of many options idk why never the first or the only one whenever I try something with a guy I always find something wrong treated badly ghosted not choosen like I want wanted just sexually or for something casual not commitment even though im a good looking physically I finished my studies I work i go to gym people always call me nice you're a good person youre pretty youre funny you're so caring even men 3and les personnes li net3aref  3lihom  idk what's wrong with me ive never felt loved by someone the way I do always the one expecting setting high hopes waiting for them and I always feeling  hurt and  at the end 
when will I ever be choosen im so tired of this it happened lot of times whenever I try to start something malgré khatini relationships idk what's the problem

Cookies_79491 🇩🇿 · Accepted Answer

All the experiences you went through and all the feelings you felt are your guidance and your redirection to choose yourself first (not to wait for others to choose you) you had to go through all of it to take it as a sign to look after yourself and to ask yourself the right questions (why I'm not choosing myself? why do I feel less? what can I do to feel better and to be better in my eyes)

Cheese_79373 🇩🇿 · Answer

I think u have to work on the inside isti79a9k  if u want to feel loved u should believe that u deserve it , we always attract the same kind of people till we learn the lesson and knw what actually missing try to look back analyze ur old relationships and see what’s the common thing to know exactly where is the problem I’m the same as u but I’ve been working on that and it actually worked

Pumpkin_80421 🇩🇿 · Answer

try to not settle for anyone who doesn't choose u first and before you're sure he has all the standards you want in a partner, you're there to see if YOU want them not if THEY want you. And whenever you are interacting with a person get back to yourself and picture urself turning down the button of ur energy to match theirs, and always ask yourself early on are they giving it as much as I require?

Cherry_80972 🇩🇿 · Answer

whoever wants you will come to you no matter what and please don't change you're perfect the way you are don't force things to happen to you cs it may hurt you at the end ♡ i promise you will be loved by the one who deserves you you're a pure heart , and don't let them use you especially sexually . your mental health matters

Grape_80976 🇩🇿 · Answer

I had the same problem as you until I cut off all the boys , but girl listen... I read once that we're attractive.. we're attractive to every kind of men ... the shit we deal with is cause we only let them in our lives. 
you . thinking that you deserve good isn't enough... you have to act like that
 ( I broke up an engagement just for this one)