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Chilli_80268 🇩🇿

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On dit toujours que le temps guérit, mais y a quelques blessures que le temps ne peut pas guérir, il peut juste te donner un pansement temporaire à chaque minute ou à chaque évènement, tu fais Rebasculer dans les ténèbres où tu sembles alors si le temps guérit, vraiment pourquoi à chaque petit détai

Pineapple_80421 🇩🇿 je pense que la réponse se trouve dans le fait que le temps guérit ce que nous avons deja choisi de laisser tomber, parfois ces obscurités sont notre zone de confort ou l'endroit (l'état) où l'on ressent une vraie appartenance où l'on se reconnait.. et peut être que pour ne plus y retomber il faut mettre une limite, trouver un moyen qui nous tire autre part quand on ressent que la chute arrive

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Chilli_80268 🇩🇿

il y a 2 jours

Sentiment Exténué

Peut-être que c'est la première fois que je vais m'exprimer sur ce sujet. En fait c'est la première fois que je vais m'exprimer tout court car j'ai pas l'habitude de parler, j'ai l'habitude de tout continir en moi et cela me me fait terriblement terriblement souffrir car j'ai un esprit analysateur C

Orange_80904 🇩🇿 Je pense que je peux te comprendre, du moins concernant la partie "analysateur" et je confirme que c'est hyper fatigant. Du coup tu veux apprendre à lâcher prise ou à t'accepter comme tu es quitte à prendre du temps pour trouver des gens qui t'acceptent comme tu es ?

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Strawberry_80330 🇩🇿

il y a 2 jours

Sentiment Exténué

It’s my first time writing on this app. And if I’m writing today, it’s because I really need to. I’m hurting—so much—and I have no one to talk to. I met my boyfriend in 2021. Back then, we were just friends online, and he was actually my older sister’s friend. In 2023, we got together because there

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It’s my first time writing on this app.
And if I’m writing today, it’s because I really need to. I’m hurting—so much—and I have no one to talk to.

I met my boyfriend in 2021. Back then, we were just friends online, and he was actually my older sister’s friend.
In 2023, we got together because there was a real connection between us.
Since then, we’ve never left each other.

After 9 months of being together, he got his visa to continue his studies in Canada.
So we started a long-distance relationship.

At the beginning of the distance (the first 2 months), I could feel that he was getting caught up in his new life over there.
He became very distant, etc.

After 5 or 6 months of distance, I found out that he was talking to other girls on Snapchat — sharing things about his past private life, intimate relationships, etc., all while saying he was in a relationship.

When I confronted him, he said it was just to pass time, and I forgave him.

8 months later, I tested him with a fake account on Snapchat and discovered he was still talking to girls.
I confronted him again, blocked him everywhere, and he contacted me by email to talk...
I unblocked him and he told me it was out of weakness, that because I’m no longer by his side, he couldn’t handle it.

(Just so you know, I also applied for a Canadian study visa, but I got rejected twice.)

He told me, “Please forgive me, I won’t do it again. You’re the one I want.” He cried… so I forgave him, but I stayed a bit distant.

After that, I got rejected for the visa a third time.

So I decided to apply again for the 4th time, but this time I’m going to change my field completely.
I talked to my sister about it, but she was against it. She told me, “You already tried 3 times, enough.”
And she also said, “If he really loved you, he would come ask for your hand instead of telling you to go to Canada.”

But he already talked about me to his parents. And if I get my visa this time, I will make him come ask for my hand so we can live together and not make mistakes...

Since then, my sister keeps causing problems.
Every time I talk about my plans, she tells my mom or my other sister to stop me.

My two sisters want to force me to marry someone else — someone who already has a job and money (because I already have marriage proposals).
But I want to stay with him, even if he’s still a student, even if he doesn’t have his own house yet, even if he lives with roommates. I can wait.

But my sisters keep saying, “Once he succeeds, he’ll forget you — maybe even before.”

But he keeps proving the opposite.
And I’m so tired of hearing the same thing over and over again.
Every time I see my older sister, she tells me, “Get married, get married.”
I’m really at my limit.

Yesterday, I went to book an appointment for a language test to start my procedures again as you know.
And my sister — the one who always causes me problems — told my mother, “Why do you let her go? She already tried 3 times, that’s enough.”

But the real reason I’m doing all this is for my future and my dream of living abroad — not just because my boyfriend is there.
And I’m so tired of these problems, and of the other troubles she causes me… it hurts.

My boyfriend is also very busy lately with work and studies… he’s alone over there.
I feel suffocated. I don’t know what to do anymore.

Should I wait for him and keep burdening him with my problems and my family’s pressure?

Or should I listen to my family and leave him, even though I don’t want that? I’m not a coward. I don’t want to leave him. But I am suffering, and I might make him suffer too.

I hope someone can help me 🤍

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Pineapple_80421 🇩🇿

Je n'aime pas être hijabi, l'angoisse dans ma gorge

my mother pressured me to wear hijab when I was 11 (because I got my period) and I couldn't speak my mind directly at that time yet I kept pushing the day of wearing it to a further date, till the first day of middle school in which she said I don't have any other options. I used to be the only hijabi of the classroom (except for the doublants that were older than the rest and had a more adult style with lots of makeup and tight jeans, when I weren't allowed pants or nail polish ofc) so I used to feel like the black sheep throughout middle school, and was convinced my crush back then would never be interested in me and everyone else too because of the hijab. I am glad I met two amazing girls who loved me for who I am ♡ but one of them, my mother used to find very beautiful and once she told the teacher in front of me that she doesn't like it when I stay too long outside with that friend because she is so beautiful ' w hadek ch3ar 3liha allah Allah ' I recall the teacher directly feeling bad for me and saying that I am beautiful too without saying anything about my mom's stupid worries. I am writing this because today as I was telling mom that she I beautiful (because she always says how her sisters are more beautiful than her) she told me I am the only one who ses her beauty and then managed to mention that friend FROM MIDDLE SCHOOL ! it has been 12 years ! I know feel good about my looks, I just hate how I look with hijab, I try different styles I also wear the clothes I like but it's in my identity, I don't like being a hijabi. my parents of course threatened me if I remove it, and my mom is apathetic when I tell her what I went through, I want her to understand and I want to wake up in the morning without l'angoisse dans ma gorge because of having to wear it again. ...voir plus

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Chilli_80268 🇩🇿

Mes bleus à l'âme et le fardeau du passé

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